A relationship grows on Twitter.


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Time for an update: Feb. 20. 2016

Yes these two bicoastal friends found their way to each other. Surprising both they fell in love. They spent 5 glorious, confusing and intense months together. Then came truth. The truth always comes out. We had hope for these lovers but as most things in life all was not revealed feelings got hurt and painful jabs exchanged. The friendship was perhaps the most wounded casualty in their story. She felt decieved he felt…well I’m really not sure. They lost each other and the experiment failed. Trust destroyed, who knows what life has in store? One thing we know,she is gone and he must accept that. Sad ending indeed.

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She:
When you think about it/me what do you imagine? What’s the best case scenario? Be honest please. The more honest the better.

He:
Best case… we fall in love and have kids and live happily ever after. That’s the absolute best.

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This very simple text exchange transpired yesterday. It’s pretty darn cute right, romantic even? These two excited people have known each other for close to three years. They met on twitter and there were certain topics that they are both passionate about that brought them into each others twittersphere (gun control) was a big one.

So as it goes they eventually DMd and that went well so they exchanged real life phone numbers. Skype followed after over a year. No they are NOT catfish they skype and send pics all the time.

These two live on opposite coasts. One, a real California guy through and through. The other a hard core east coast chick. Life has now created a circumstance where he is about to move to the east coast. In about 2-4months she and he will finally meet face to face.

They are such great friends and have been extremely patient in lieu of their previous circumstances. Now they are thrilled, nervous, excited, waiting for what lie ahead for them. There are no promises being made or expectations beyond meeting face to face. The friendship is strong enough to survive if the relationship does not end in the happily ever after. I wish these two all the luck in the world because they both deserve it. In terms of a relationship born on social media, these two did it really well and it’s truly authentic.

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Myspace: The honeymoon phase.


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Preface: I was in fact a little addicted to Myspace at the time I wrote this and believed it to be a fantastic creative outlet to share with friends. This explains the title of the article. 

Technology has widened our horizons, broadened our scope and created neighbors that are thousands of miles away. No internet tool or social networking site has been quite as successful as Myspace and at bridging the gap between regular guys and girls and the “celebrities” they covet.


MySpace allows the user through various avenues to find and contact a host of people with similar interests, voyeuristic tendencies and whatever else binds people together. MySpace has even created “celebrities” of its own. For example Tilla Tequila a tiny yet curvaceous user has over a million  billion friends on her site. With a bevy of provocative photos this mini diva has been featured in men’s magazines such as FHM and Maxim. She has been offered promotions and most recently starred in her own bi-sexual reality show on MTV, (season two starts soon). The question then is why this diminutive creature is so appealing to men in cyberspace? For one thing it seems that the interactive element to Myspace actually allows her admirers to feel closer to her. As she adds them as friends there is a feeling that a certain intimacy exists that print magazines cannot offer. Once added asa friend, comments are posted that reinforce the admirers lust for her, with such originals as “your hot” and “sexy” followed by offers of servitude to her every whim. Sometimes these comments are in the form of images and even glittery sayings (lots of glitter on Myspace).


This top social networking site also provides the opportunity to reconnect with people they have lost touch with over time.  They may live on opposite sides of the country or the planet for that matter, but a simple search might prove to find them staring back at you waiting for a friend request or an add. Next thing you know there is a connection once again with someone with whom it may otherwise not have been possible. If nothing else it allows a safe and friendly way to catch up and share news, updates and of course photos that are updated relentlessly.


Musicians and bands find a great deal of support through Myspace. Posting their latest releases, concert dates and impromptu shows get the fans involved and once again bridge the space between the voice on the disc and some more attainable and accessible method of connecting. Once only independent films, but now major studios use MySpace to preview trailers and build buzz for premieres, actors and awards. There are often contests and promotions which offered exclusively to the “friends” again help foster the would-be audiences feelings of greater connectedness, and this certainly does not hurt ticket sales.


There are critics that abound to pledge their disgust and disapproval of Myspace and the many other similar sites that have become popular social media networks since this article was conceived. Mainly negative attention revolves around the problem stemming from under age users posting inappropriate or potentially dangerous material. These critics however disdain any medium that requires responsibility for parents and adults to monitor their children’s on-line behavior. Myspace for instance has a no tolerates abuse policy and responds quickly when abuse is reported. Therefore, the negatives are minimal and are overshadowed by the benefits of connection.


The Internet has been described as a way to isolate from people, and in many ways it certainly does create a private world for some people who only interact via these means. For others, however, social networking sites provide the outlet to connect along the cyber-highway and become much closer to that which interests, excites or encourages them. 

Copyright ©2007  Veronica Romm

Since writing this article I have written more about the dangers that do exist: Our Teens are Running Wild, and navigating dating and internet dating Breaking up is hard to do (on Web 2.0).

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